If I’m REALLY honest, December is a tough one for me…
As always, I’ll be real with you and admit that apart from my birthday (bless Sagittarius season), I practically dread December. I know that sounds SO Grinchy (I love the Grinch, so I’m really okay if you call me that), but I simply do not resonate with the holiday hype. For years I’ve attributed this to the past circumstances of my life; whether it be family stresses, living situations, working long retail hours, finances…the list goes on. And with this Grinchy perspective it’s clear I take even greater notice to the societal obsession of unrealistic expectations that truly have nothing to do with Christmas at all.
Oh and for the record, I know my perspective on the holiday’s is not for everyone, but I also know it is for someone.
And if that is you, I’m really excited you’re here…
Here’s the thing— I don’t know if its the magic of Christmas time in the city or what has gotten into me (maybe it’s age?) but I finally realize what I’ve been doing wrong for far too long. For years I’ve destroyed every holiday for myself by throwing a pity party over the past and being disappointed by unrealistic expectations for the present…
Time and time again I’ve ruined the day before it had the chance to say hello.
A few years ago, one of my best friends shared with me that because his family has prior Christmas day commitments (yes we are at that point in our lives), he wakes up to spend Christmas day SOLO. But rather than drowning in loneliness and self pity, he unwraps a gift he bought himself, cooks his favorite meal, treats himself to his favorite beer, and celebrates everything good in his life. And GIRL, when he told me this it REALLY put my feelings toward Christmas into prespective…
Here’s the thing…
Christmas isn’t about how much money you have, buying everyone on your list the most expensive item, spending the day at a certain location, or with certain people out of expectation. No. Christmas is a time to reflect and be thankful for the incredible people, things, and opportunities we are blessed with DAILY. And THAT is the way I want to celebrate!
So with a new point of view, I’m proud to report I’ve spent the past few Christmas’s making new memories rather than living in (and resenting) the past. So far I’ve spent this season visiting New York’s renowned Christmas decor (always followed by a much needed dirty martini with my husband because…tourists), and I look forward to a Friendmas style Christmas Eve dinner with my quarantine crew. And though I miss my family, it’s the happiest holiday I’ve had in years.
I guess you can now call me a “reformed” Grinch.
If you’ve been a Grinch like me in holiday past, I challenge you to shift your perspective and spend your holidays in a more grateful state of mind, rather than in self pity this year. Whether you celebrate solo, host a Covid-compliant Friendmas dinner with others who can’t make it home, or celebrate with family, simply challenge yourself to celebrate with thankfulness in your heart for everything that IS great in life. I promise the Christmas music on repeat sounds much better this way!
Looking for more inspiration to get you through the holiday season? Join me and the Ditch the Clique COMMUNITY for our FREE virtual Holiday Happy Hour on Friday December 18th 6pm-7pm EST. Wear you fave holiday dress (becasue where else do you have to wear it this season?) or your festive pjs for an hour of confidence boositng conversation and empowering resources to take you into the New Year! Get ready for a holiday party unlike any other, in a year like any other!
Wishing you a very Merry Christmas from all of us here at Ditch the Clique!
And GIRL, if you want MORE of THIS (this being a community of women inspiring and empowering you RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE while you go after your DREAM life), join Ditch the Clique COMMUNITY today!
This post and styled items in this post are sponsored by our partner Figleaves. Please also note this post was originally shared in 2018 and though some updates have been made to the original, it does not reflect ALL social distancing standards. Please take precaution this holiday season.
who is Rachel?
Rachel K. Grim is the Brooklyn New York based blogger, speaker, and empowerHER behind the event series and online community Ditch the Clique. In 2019 Rachel launched Ditch the Clique to empower REAL women of all ages, races, sizes, and careers with goal-getting resources to live the life they dream! When she’s not scheming new ways to grow the Ditch the Clique COMMUNITY, Rachel can be found eating and shopping her way through New York City, traveling abroad, or watching binge-worthy reality television (with a glass of prosecco in hand, of course)!
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