At 5 years old, I wanted to be a teacher. At 10, a veterinarian. At 15, a writer. At 20, a PR professional. Clearly, my “dream job” has changed a lot since I was a kid. It’s natural. It’s expected. But for some reason, once we reach a certain age, change suddenly feels scary, as if we’ve committed to one dream, one path, one idea of ourselves, and it’s too late to try something new.
But GIRL, let me tell you this — it’s NEVER too late to change.
My first year of college, I was a film major. And I HATED it. Within the first week, I had a mental breakdown and cried to my mom on the phone about how much I disliked my classes. Despite this, I felt reluctant to change my major, even though I had heard over and over that it was totally normal to do so. I wanted to stick with my original choice. I had already sent out graduation announcements to all my friends and family, declaring myself a film major. That was the whole reason I chose my college in the first place. I couldn’t change — I didn’t have a backup plan. I felt lost.
But guess what? I didn’t let my fear convince me to stay stuck in a situation where I was unhappy. I changed my major to public relations and it was the BEST decision ever. & I realized something:
Dreams change, that’s life. And it’s NOT a bad thing. In fact, it’s a sign of something great!
When it feels like change is scary and unwelcome, remember — change is natural. Think of the seasons, your favorite flowers, the leaves on the trees. Things don’t last forever, so why try and force your dreams to? Snakes shed their skin. Birds molt their feathers. But we aren’t supposed to stay the same. If the world around us can change and STILL be beautiful and valuable, so can you. Growth is powerful, so if your dreams don’t fulfill you the same way they used to, then change them.
I know that’s easier said than done. It’s DIFFICULT to change up your life. Maybe if you alter your plans, you feel like you’re falling behind. But don’t let yourself believe that lie. Your path doesn’t have to follow a certain timeline or look like anyone else’s. Your dreams, your goals, and your paths are all exclusive to YOU. Comparison kills. Don’t fall into that trap. Your dreams don’t have to please anyone but you.
Sometimes, all you need to finally make a much-needed change is a little encouragement and support. That’s where Ditch the Clique comes in! With confidence-coaching chats and empowering conversations, the DTC COMMUNITY is THE place for connection, inspiration, and dream-achieving (or dream-changing) resources!
who is the author, April?
April Hooper is a public relations student at Messiah University, minoring in marketing and gender studies. She always has a coffee in hand and is rocking a thrifted outfit with handmade accessories. When she graduates, she dreams of living abroad, owning as many cats as possible, and writing for a living.
One thought on “What To Do When Your Dreams Change”